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power play

Posted on: November 21, 2009

What is it about dating, that men and women have to turn it into such a intricate, confusing game where they attempt to see who will come out on top?

I’m getting really tired of this “play-hard-to-get” game. Flirting is all well and good, but not when you have to keep doing it back and forth 24/7, for a prolonged period of time, like a tennis marathon. I love me my quips, but I really want a normal decent conversation without double meanings just once, oh puh-leeeze!

So why, why do people do it? Why do guys do it? Why do girls do it?

Scenario: You’re really into a guy. But of course it’ll be crazy to ask him out. So you flirt with him via texts, but always make it a point to wait an hour before replying his reply. And then, when he doesn’t reply, you go crazy. The next time he texts, you agonize over it for 6 hours thinking of the perfect nonchalant reply, before sending the response, just to have him not respond until a day later. Since he took so long, you have to take longer, so you didn’t reply him for two days. You feel totally on top of the game until you hit that “send” button, after which you feel like he again holds the power.

And then, he finally asks you out… ding ding ding! You won that round. On the day of the supposed date, you hang on to your phone the whole day waiting for him to call and confirm the date. While out shopping, you keep checking your phone. When reading a book, you can’t concentrate. You stare at your phone willing it to ring, but no way are you going to call him! … He finally calls, says he’s going to be late. You say it’s okay, because you’re running late as well… And then you walk around your house for half an hour trying to kill time, already all dressed up. After the date and a wonderful kiss, he said he’ll call you, and you wonder if he really will. After all, it’s all about the power play.

In the end, it all boils down to the fact that all humans desire what they can’t have. Girls play harder to get with guys they really fancy. And guys expect girls to play hard to get, so they get turned off when a girl is too ‘easy’ – ie. she respond quickly to all his texts, doesn’t bother to pretend to have a busy schedule, and says straight out that she fancies him.

So… where does that leave the girls who don’t want to play the game? Girls who have lives of their own, but would like this special guy to share it with her sometimes? Girls who know he wants to play the game, and oblige along, but really just wondering inside how long this has to last before he’ll give in and be normal?

But then again, guys who are easy to get are such a turn off, aren’t they?



1 Response to "power play"

just passing by.

i hate those games too! i guess people play games when they are not very into the other person and the other person is quite a catch, so it’ll be desirable to ‘keep them around’.

i think you’re a pretty and smart lady who definitely deserves better šŸ™‚

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